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Porn Addiction Is Killing You

Porn is a killer. If you have been unable to free yourself from the clutches of porn addiction, then you already know that in addition to decimating your bank account, porn addiction is also destroying your self respect, your relationships, your career, your entire life.

If you are afflicted by porn addiction then it is very likely that porn has been masquerading itself as your best friend for a long time. The initial highs made it seem like you need no one else in your life. And if you were emotionally or physically abused when you were growing up, the promise of comfort and accessibility made porn an irresistible constant companion for you.

The problem is that this companion has been putting invisible chains on you all the while you were running to it for comfort. Every time you retreated to porn in order to cope with a life situation, it tightened its grip. This is how casual interest turns eventually into full blown porn addiction.

You may have believed that you can stop using porn at any time. That you really don't have a porn addiction. Possibly, you didn't even realize that the term porn addiction existed.

It is very common for people with porn addiction to not realize that something is wrong until they try to not use porn any more. Like a typical smoker, they do not see the addiction until they try to stop getting regular highs from porn.

Let there be no mistake, porn addiction is a conditioned response to emotionally or physically painful experiences in one's life.

If you have been abused or continually ignored as a child or throughout your life, live in emotional isolation from other people, experienced a major loss, have very low self esteem as a result of your emotionally painful experiences, it is only expected that you'd turn to the coping mechanism of porn addiction in order to deal with the pain.

Emotional trauma can make it impossible for an individual to make meaningful connection with others. And because human beings cannot survive in complete isolation, porn addiction provides a "safe haven" where one can have virtual relationships with "perfect" people. Porn addiction presents itself as a place where one is never hurt.

If you now trying to free yourself from porn addiction, you are beginning to see that the safety of porn is an illusion. The reality is that your life has been made a much more frightening experience because of it.

As you continue to hide, your communication skills, acceptance of other people and general ability to deal with life have been declining. You may also be at a point now where you are having difficulties with performance on the job. And if you continue to hide behind porn, you will become even more dysfunctional than you are now.

If you are trying to disentangle from porn addiction, you are in a very difficult spot. You can't quit on your own, books and general as well as professional advice you've gotten so far don't seem to help. And you repeatedly fall back into old addictive patterns with the full knowledge that they are making your condition worse.

Falling back into perpetual patterns of porn addiction happens because the actual causes behind it are not examined and removed.

Although it may seem paradoxical, porn itself is not what causes porn addiction. The cause of porn addiction is the accumulated emotional trauma for which escaping to porn became a coping mechanism. It is the escape from life that reinforces porn addiction.

Again, porn addiction is about unresolved emotional trauma and the resulting inability to establish meaningful relationships with other people, personally and professionally.

If one cannot get along with people, one becomes increasingly afraid of them and has to resort to a coping mechanism in order to alleviate the ever present emotional anguish.

Porn addiction makes a "perfect" companion, as one literally falls in love with the images one sees. This is easy to do when one doesn't have someone to care about in real life. Illusion becomes reality because there is no basis for comparison.

Now, more than ever, our culture encourages people to escape to porn. Have no one to love? No problem. The glut of erotica will take care of you.

This is a lie. Porn will not take care of you. You have to take care of you. You have to rediscover your intrinsic worth and self respect. You have to take responsibility for your recovery from porn addiction.

Taking responsibility does not mean doing everything by yourself. It does mean, however, taking the time to learn about your condition and getting help from people that can help you to regain freedom from porn addiction. You once had this freedom and you can have it again.

If you want to be free from porn addiction, you must get results oriented counseling. This type of counseling is available through this website.

The intensity of cravings for porn decreases directly with the amount of resolved emotional burdens. Porn becomes unnecessary when emotional suffering is removed.

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