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Porn Addiction's Nature

Porn addiction is frequently thought of as a cold or a wart virus, something you catch and therefore of external nature.

The reality is that porn addiction is more akin to arthritis and it will eat at you from within as long as you don't resolve its internal causes.

That's right, the causes and therefore nature of porn addiction are internal. And they happen to be your thoughts and feelings. Even more precisely, they are the unresolved painful thoughts and feelings that can date all the way back to your childhood.

This is not psychoanalysis or psychobabble. If you experienced physical and/or emotional trauma for which you used pornography as a coping mechanism, that trauma remains on the inside, and continues to inflict emotional suffering on you.

Pornography may have seemed like a form of salvation, because of its initial potent anaesthetic effect. However, its painkilling effects eventually begin to diminish. This means that in time you needed more and more porn to continue coping with the original and later emotional trauma.

Where does later emotional trauma come from? From ongoing efforts to escape life. And ongoing efforts to escape life come from original emotional trauma.

If you can resolve the original and the trauma that has been accumulating since then on your own, then you will free yourself from porn addiction. If you cannot resolve the trauma you are still carrying, then you will not free yourself from porn addiction.

Porn addiction is not a bug you catch, it is a sore that is infected from within. Although there is no shame in having an infection, society at large is not particularly receptive to physical or psychological puss.

If you were the only person in the world, then surely porn addiction would not be too much of a social problem. However, in the real world porn addiction has devastating effects in the lives of people who had succumbed to it.

You can continue using porn itself as an anaesthetic, use something else, like alcohol and drugs, to numb your pain. Or you can reach out and get help that will enable you to root your porn addiction from the inside out. The choice is yours.

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